Saturday, February 16, 2013

Week 5 (2/11 - 2/15)

Week 5


This week we talked about dating and marriage. I learned about the effects of cohabitation and, although widely accepted in our culture, it is more harmful than good to a marriage. Here are some of the facts:

Reasons for cohabitation:
1.     Prepare for marriage
2.     Test drive
3.     Think it’s the same as marriage
4.     Find out Sexual compatibility
5.     Alternative to marriage
6.     Viewed as the next natural phase in a relationship
7.     Avoid complications for divorce
8.     Less commitment- don’t need to share
9.     Not wanting to be exclusive with that person- keep doors open

Effects of cohabitation:
1.     Less physical intimacy than married couples
2.     Less mental and emotional health
3.     Marriage after cohabitation leads to a higher divorce rate
4.     Maintain he physical behaviors and the thoughts after marriage
5.     More likely to think of marriage as a contract instead of a covenant
6.     More likely to spend money on alcohol and tobacco
      
         This is very interesting to me because I have a little sister who has been cohabiting with her boyfriend for over two and a half years. I feel like if she only could look at the research as well as the warnings given to us from the holy prophets then perhaps she would be able to make a crucial decision as to what path she will choose for her future. 

    I also learned the following about Love:


   4 types of love:
     Eros- Passionate sexual love (falling in love) driven by emotion
    Agape- Love independent of ones feelings for another. Love them despite weaknesses
    Storge- Parent child love-hurts you to see them hurting: Nurturing love
   Philia- friendship/brotherly love

You should have all 4 of these with the person that you love.
            ...Too often people are driven by the first one.














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