Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Week 11 (3/25 - 3/29)

Week 11



           This week we learned a lot about parenting and a lot of the different approaches associated with it. Here are some of the key things that I learned that I thought would be important to remember as I one day become a parent myself:

Often when we think of discipline we think of punishment- that does not always have to be the case.

Who owns the problem? The person who’s goal or purpose is being frustrated.

Sometimes the parent owns the problem and sometimes the teen owns the problem- sometime it is shared.

If the teen owns the problem- use gentle coaching, opportunities to help them make wise decisions and learn from the natural consequences of those decisions.
            Natural consequence- Out of your control
                        Use except when consequences are:
                                    1. Too dangerous
                                    2. Too far in the future to be a good teacher
                                    3. It affects someone else

If the parent owns the problem use:
    1. Polite requests
    2. Firm requests
    3. “I” messages
    4. Logical consequences
        • Given by the parent


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